Power abuse relationships

After reading the instructor wrap up on Chapter 6, it made me realize that my last relationship consisted more of an abusive power communication. So I have been in both positions, being the person with more power as well as being the person with less power. Both positions ultimately, suck. I am more of a person that likes to compromise with people because I know that it ultimately makes me a better person and allows me to understand the person I am communicating with a little bit better so when you have the power or lack the power there usually isn’t much compromising.  To quote the wrap up, “those who abuse power may find that the other person responds in passive or passive-aggressive ways in order to avoid threats and abuse.” I find that when you have less power, you do feel passive and your communication is very passive aggressive, however when you feel like your the one who has the power in a relationship you feel very strong, and this is when that power, becomes abusive because you know you have the power to control the relationship and a lot of time people abuse this power. When you are in an unbalanced relationship, it is ultimately going to lead to a miscommunication and break up. Again, in the instructor wrap up she talks about giving up that power to resolve conflict and I absolutely agree with that.  If one person in a relationship feels like they have the power, they tend to talk down to the other person, making them feel insecure and weak which can make that person not want to open up to their significant other. . When there isn’t this power struggle it eliminates competition within two people. Whenever two people are competing that leads to win-lose outcomes which again leads to putting someone down in order to make you feel like you won. Ultimately, a power struggle relationship leads to many communication errors