Social Exchange Theory

 I found the social exchange theory to be very relatable. I have been in a couple long-term relationships and as a young women, you tend to rate your relationships and analyze them to see if you are still happy in your relationships after a long period of time. The social exchange theory states that people evaluate their interpersonal relationships in terms of their value, which is created by costs and rewards associated with the relationship. I think where you run into problems in your relationship is when you rate your relationship satisfaction, based on previous experiences, because your comparing your boyfriends to your ex then you think about how your ex did one thing that your current boyfriend doesn’t. I also think that rating your relationship on relationship commitment level, such as rewards, or costs of alternatives can be useful because it allows you to see that your getting back what your putting into the relationship. Not saying that you need to be spoiled with goods, or money but making sure that your not putting more into the relationship then your significant other. This can lead to feeling unsure in your relationships.

 

Chapter 12- Post 2

         The Attribution theory, states that people act as they do in conflict situations because of the interferences they make about others based on their behavior (P.217). I recently asked my girlfriend to go to dinner with me, because I haven’t seen her in awhile, she replied no because she had a lot of studying to do for her test coming up. I knew she had the test coming up so my feelings weren’t hurt. Then, I was invited by my other friends to go out to eat and I said I couldn’t cause I already ate and they explained to me that they saw my girlfriend(the one I asked to go out to eat) at the place they were eating at with our friend. So I assumed she was trying to avoid me, or just didn’t want to hang out with me so naturally my feelings were hurt. Later, I texted her and made a remark stating our friends saw her. And she replied saying that they were studying together and took a break together. At first I was annoyed and bothered but later realized that I was in the wrong.

         A situation where making accurate attributions has helped me, is when I started to learn how to do makeup. I was at my friends house and she was doing my makeup for the night and I was telling her how much I loved my makeup and how I wish I knew how to do makeup. Later, she taught me how to do basic makeup looks and led me down the path of having so much passion for hair and makeup.  

Revenge, Reconciliation and Forgiveness

Sometimes I like to read my classmates posts before I do mine to help generate some ideas for my posts so what I found to be interesting was

What was interesting to me was that I found more sights with forgiveness than on revenge and reconsiliation. While, my many of my classmates found revenge to have the most sites. Reconciliation had a couple things that popped up many of it had to do with defining the word. When I first typed revenge in my google search, the television series revenge popped up everywhere. What I find to be interesting with this show, especially the title is that the media is portraying revenge as a good thing, and naming a show after the word. The show is about a girl seeking revenge for his families death. When I looked up the word forgiveness, a ton of stuff popped up. I then reworded my search so that I wouldn’t get bomboarded with sites to the television series and I still didn’t see as much sites as I did for forgiveness. A lot of stuff that had to do with the bible popped up. Such as, what the bible says about forgiveness, and  how you can be healed through forgiveness. I thought revenge would have more sites, but to my surprise forgiveness did. I am not sure why forgiveness has more sites, I thought revenge would, maybe it was what I was googling. However, maybe there are a lot of people out there wanting to seek forgiveness but don’t know how or where to start so they google it and a ton of support groups pop up. It is always interesting to see what pops up in the google search