I learned a lot
about myself in this course. I think that is why this class was one of my
favorites, because I was able to apply the context and what not to my
life. I learned mostly about
myself in this class. I learned that I tend to have a temper when arguing, I
shut people out and I am not a good listener. This class made me analyze myself
when in conflict. My favorite theory we learned in this class was the S-TLC
approach. It is an easy, common sense approach but sometimes we over think the
obvious. Now when I am in conflict, I take a breather before I respond and am a
way better listener. I also analyzed the close relationships around me and how
they handle and communicate when in conflict. More specifically, my poor
boyfriend because I am around him the most. But, I think through all this
analyzing I have hopefully made him a better communicator when in conflict
situations.
I think it’s great that you were able to recognize some bad habits because of this class. It definitely made me think of things that I do in conflict situations that don’t help things get resolved. I thought that S-TLC was a nice tool as well. I usually want to handle a conflict immediately but my wife is less comfortable with that and needs to take time to cool down and sort out her thoughts. Because of S-TLC, I have learned to appreciate that need more than in the past and I don’t take things as personally as I did before. Because she attended my workshop and learned about S-TLC too, she has said that she will be better about telling me she needs a time-out instead of just leaving. It was a real sticking point for us in the past. It’s nice that this class has made an impact on both of our relationships - that’s really rare. It’s been one of my favorite classes as well.
ReplyDeleteBrittany Victoria,
ReplyDeleteIt sounds like you really enjoyed yourself in this class and you learned a lot. I too tend to have a temper while arguing. It is something that I think most people let happen and it is something that I am working hard to break! I agree that it was nice that this class made us analyze ourselves when in conflict. I felt like I learned a lot about myself from that. I also think that the S-TLC method is the best conflict approach. I really try to use that now every time I’m in conflict. I think it’s the easiest to remember and the easiest to apply to every situation!
Brittany Victoria,
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you - this class has made me learn a lot about myself and how I argue! I think it's really awesome you can be so honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses, as well as what you need to work on and how far you have come. The S-TLC system is one of my favorites as well because it is so easy to comprehend and apply to your daily life. Stepping away from a fight is vital I now realizing, in order to reduce blowing up or saying something you might regret. Hopefully we can all take that away from this course...thanks for your post!