After reading chapter 4, I couldn’t help but think of my
boyfriends flaws in communicating. While I love my boyfriend to pieces, nobody
is perfect so am going to use him as my example for this discussion.
I wanted him to read chapter 4. He is
just like me and when we talk, especially serious talks he doesn’t always let
the other person finish what they are saying before he passes his judgment on
the issue or what not. Part of the S-TLC that I really related to was the STOP
step. As our professor talks about on the blog, when the book talks about
“stop” it simply means to take a time out, analyze the conversation rationally
and consider all the options. A lot of people (like my boyfriend) take things
personal, rather than seeing the other persons goals, and considering their
conflicting parties. I think this is why sometimes I prefer to write a letter
to someone, because I feel I can say everything on my mind, without getting
interrupted. I have always found this to be helpful, but I like face to face
interaction for multiple reasons, one of which, is that the person you are
talking to can see your emotions and that can make the topic seem more serious,
and more important to you.
I found your post really interesting and amusing. I actually chose to right about S-TLC also because I think it's really important. The STOP step is definitely important and most people do skip it. It's super critical to stop and collect yourself before making a response. Most people just get to upset and take things personal, so they respond hastily without thinking about what they are saying. They speak with their emotions rather than logic which can be really detrimental to a relationship. It's definitely important to stop and consider your options before speaking.
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